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Touched Out, Peopled Out

Touch and connection with people. It’s something we all need but we want it on our own terms. Molly and Angela talk about being touched out and peopled out in this episode. Join us for this conversation as we talk about the shame and guilt that comes with touch in a variety of our relationships […]

The Zone of Consent

We are giving a big ass enthusiastic YES! to this one!!! From FRIES to rings and yummy goodness in between, this episode is a full course meal! Angela loves to blow folks’ minds with her take on consent and Molly reminds us all that not only is consent a process, but learning about it and […]

Medicine, Masks, and Meltdowns

Depending on your own neurospicy flavor, this week’s episode may be a must listen. We’re talking all about how medicines eff with our ability to mask, the different ways people in the neurodivergent community view masking, and all the overloads/meltdowns—and even this word is a controversy in the community—that come as a result of life […]

Angela’s ADHD, Queer, Autistic Wonderland

You asked for it so here it is. Angela’s story. Angela takes Molly on a tour through her Wonderland. The story starts in Weirdville and takes a side quest to Queertown. A trip to Autisticland brings back memories for Molly as she recalls Angela’s first visit before she realized that it was home. And Angela […]

Why can’t my neurodivergence be accommodated, too?

“Back the fork up. I’m about to explode like my little kiddos house in Minecraft when it’s built from TNT” (Molly, 7:56). Today, we are talking about needing accommodations but not always getting them because we are the one’s doing the accommodations most of the time. Because we can…until we can’t. We talk about why […]

Beyond the Bedroom: BDSM for Neurodivergent Folks

Bondage, Dominance, Submission…let’s talk about that! Today, Molly and Angela delve into BDSM—but not exactly in the way you might expect. We aren’t talking about sex, baby! This episode is all about understanding how the structure and practices within BDSM can support us individually as well as in our relationships with others. And you’ll get […]

Co-Regulation and Neurodiversity

In this episode of Drudgery and Dreams, Molly and Angela dive into the importance of co-regulation. Last week, Molly showed us all how to co-regulate when she supported Angela when she got overwhelmed and was legit frozen from the restraints of time and the sheer amount of things she wanted to say about something she […]

Navigating the Holidays as a Neurodivergent Queer Human

The holidays. We could probably just stop there and our point is made. Alas, we have more to say.  Join us as we talk about challenges that neurodivergent and queer ADULTS (of course, we do talk about the littles as well, we are parents after all) experience at this time of year. With its hearty […]

Imposter Syndrome, Confidence Culture, and Other Positive BS

Molly and Angela are calling bullshit again. This time, it’s all about the toxic side of positive psychology, how confidence culture is making us feel worse, and acknowledging that conversations around “imposter syndrome,” as it has been defined by the current social narrative, might be holding us back rather than propelling us forward.  Fake it […]

Neurodivergence + Queerness

We are here, we are queer…and neurodivergent. Those two things are not separate from one another. They go together like love and gay marriage 😉 It’s bisexual awareness week and we are celebrating by talking about understanding ourselves as queer beings from childhood right up to today. We share our personal stories, but also some […]

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